My wife says I have never satisfied her so she cheated with a guy from her office
DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife says I have never satisfied her in the bedroom but a guy from her office did. She’s been unhappy about our sex life for years. I didn’t think she would cheat but she came home after a night out with colleagues saying she’d ended up going back to a guy’s place […]
DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife says I have never satisfied her in the bedroom but a guy from her office did.
She’s been unhappy about our sex life for years.
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I didn’t think she would cheat but she came home after a night out with colleagues saying she’d ended up going back to a guy’s place for sex and “it was magic”.
I was so upset.
She said: “Go and find an escort but she won’t enjoy it and you’ll lose out financially.”
She says sex doesn’t feel the same since we had our children and she gets frustrated.
I’m 41 and she’s 38.
I feel such a failure.
She challenges everything I say and do.
Is our marriage over?
DEIDRE SAYS: She is taking a battering ram to your confidence.
If your sex life wasn’t great for her she owed it to you to tell you so you could try to resolve the problems together, not cheat.
Childbirth can make reaching sexual satisfaction harder for a woman but try the self-help sex therapy explained in my e-leaflet on Improving Sexual Sensation.
Tell her you love her and want to try again but you’ll walk if she cheats a second time.
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