How to forgive and forget in 3 steps — and why it's unhealthy to rush the process

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• It's hard to forgive and forget, but many people choose to try.
• You shouldn't rush to forget, because you need to work through the feelings first.
• It will be uncomfortable to face your emotions, but it's the only way you'll really be able to forgive someone.
• Otherwise, you're suppressing how you really feel, and it'll manifest itself in other ways like pain, stress, and anxiety.
• Here are three steps you need to follow to start forgiving and really forget.

When Tibet was invaded by the People's Liberation Army of China in the 1950s, one monk was in jail for 15 years, and was tortured nearly the entire time. When he was released, he went to the Dalai Lama and said of his experience, "my Holiness, I was very afraid."

The Dalai Lama asked him what he was scared of, and the monk responded: "I was really afraid I wouldn't feel compassion for my captors anymore."See the rest of the story at Business Insider

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