I have filed for divorce after being stuck in sexless marriage but I’m still living on the sofa and trying to date again

DEAR DEIDRE: GETTING back on the dating scene is daunting, especially as I am now married and have a three-year-old daughter.

I am in a quandary about whether to be up front about my situation or to get to know my date better before revealing all.

This isn’t about cheating as my wife and I haven’t had sex for years and have filed for divorce, but I am still living on the sofa.

I don’t want my situation to put off the woman I have started seeing, but I want to be honest.

Although I have only been on one date with her, I really like what I see. I am 39 and this woman is 35.

My wife’s parents are going to buy me out of the house so I can set myself up afresh but all the admin is taking a long time.

Your advice would really be appreciated as I have hit it off with this woman I have started dating.

We have been chatting continuously. We love the same films and gaming.

I want to show her I respect her and am a truthful person, but I will be gutted if she dismisses me at this early stage, without getting to know me.

Also don’t all the married men who want a mistress lie and say they are going to get a divorce and are in a sexless marriage?

DEIDRE SAYS:  Yes, it is usually best to get things out into the open.

You know you have got to tell her but I can imagine how hard it is to know precisely when.

The truth is bound to come out sooner or later anyway.

No one likes being deceived, especially about something so serious therefore it is important you are upfront and honest at the start.

If your date goes well, then focus on how you want to be together but be prepared for her to ask for time and space to think things through.