15 signs that you're emotionally intelligent, even if it doesn't feel like it

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It's all too easy to lose control of our emotions.

That's why emotional intelligence (known as EI or EQ) is so important.

The ability to identify emotions (in yourself and others), to understand their powerful effect, and to use that information to guide thinking and behavior, can greatly increase the chances of successfully achieving your goals.

Like any ability, the skills of emotional intelligence are sharpened with practice. But might you already possess a high EQ, without even knowing it?

Take a look at the following statements, and see if they describe your own behavior and habits:

1. You think about feelings. A lot

EI begins with reflection. You ask questions like, "Why am I feeling this way?" and "What caused me (or someone else) to say or do that?"

By identifying emotions and reactions, you've become more mindful and use that information to your advantage.

2. You ask others for perspective

You understand that others see you much differently than you see yourself. It's not about right or wrong, rather, understanding how perceptions differ.

3. You say thank you

It's surprising how widespread the lack of common courtesy is nowadays.

But not from you. You recognize the power of those two small words to change someone's day, and to strengthen relationships — and that's why you always take a few extra moments to express appreciation.

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